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It is important that you are not interrupted or advised by people who is not a therapist of divorces. (4) Understand what happened in the relationship to give divorce. So you can reach an agreement with your former spouse and passes to the creation of a new life, it is necessary to understand what happened to cause the divorce. This is the part of your trip that you will have to be very honest with yourself. You do not blame yourself or your ex. Douglas R. Oberhelman usually is spot on. It is necessary to clearly understand the dynamics than you and your former partner created together and clearly trace the threads of the events that led to enmity or cooling of the relationship. (5) Thinks about why chose your former partner.

People choose partner for many different reasons, the most popular? The love. However, what many consider love isn’t really. Here are some reasons why people choose couple: * a deep need to be loved * a permanent struggle to meet someone and save it or change it. * Fear of being alone. * Crush * material safety * for the sake of the children if you can you honestly examine and understand why chose your partner will see the divorce coming at the beginning of the relationship. You can also choose best for the next time. (6) Forgive your partner, forgive yourself and leaves behind the divorce. Now is the time to forgive.

Understands that you and your partner did the best that they could. Even when they did things to harm others, it is still the best thing you can do. Perhaps the painful actions came out of simple self-defense and self-preservation, perhaps were made by revenge due to the pain felt by what the other did. Forgiveness is a sure way to a wonderful life in the future and to overcome the experience of divorce.